![]() ![]() If this is a new position for you and your partner, you’ll want to discuss how you’ll try it and where. Talking to Your Partner About Trying the Butterfly He suggests limiting your expectations for what you want to achieve and focusing on pleasure and playfulness instead. David Yarian, Ph.D., licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, in Oprah Magazine. Make sure you both know what the position is and that you both feel comfortable. How to Try the Butterfly Sex Position SafelyĪs with all aspects of sexual intercourse, communication between partners is essential. Good communication is key to making this position work. The partner with the penis can take care to go slowly and be considerate of their partner’s comfort and pleasure. But just because deep penetration is possible doesn’t mean it has to happen. It’s Uncomfortable for the Receiving Partnerīecause the butterfly position allows for deep penetration, some receiving partners may find this uncomfortable. The poses in the traditional Kama Sutra typically describe vaginal penetration by a male, but same-sex couples can do many of the moves, too. This position should only be done if the partner who is lying down is very flexible. The standing partner pushes the other person’s legs straight back toward their head, eventually touching their toes to the surface they are lying on. The partner on their back squeezes their legs together and bends the knees up toward their chest, resting the heels on their partner’s chest. Similar to the praying mantis position, the sandwich is when the partner lying down bends both legs outward while the other person pushes down on both legs. While the partner with a penis is on their knees, the other person bends one leg outward, and their partner pushes down on that leg. With the legs pointed directly at the ceiling, the partner lying down creates a 90-degree angle with their body. This creates a tighter fit for penetration.īy crossing the legs and placing the left ankle on the left shoulder of the standing partner and the right ankle on the right shoulder, crisscross creates a smaller insertion point for the penis. The partner that is lying down rests both legs on one shoulder of the person who is standing. The standing person leans forward into their partner’s legs, pushing the legs back toward the head. Below are several variations to this popular position. ![]() Partners can try slight adjustments to see which options are most enjoyable for both. Many similar positions with slight differences are known by different names. The butterfly is a very easy and versatile sex position that is comfortable for both partners. What Is the Difference between the Butterfly, the Anvil, the Praying Mantis, and Others? In the butterfly sex position, the receiving partner lies down and the partner with a penis stands in front so that the pelvis is a few inches above their partner’s pelvis. Also, the clitoris can be manually stimulated in this position. Known as “The Blossoming Position” in the ancient text the Kama Sutra, this position is considered very pleasurable because of deep penetration. The partner lying down can move their legs for comfort and stimulation. The standing partner does most of the work. My suggestion… try other ways to stretch the inner thigh that might be more productive and doesn’t base your stretching success on the butterfly position, which may be challenged by your particular hip structure.The butterfly is a sex position where the partner with a vagina lies on their back at the edge of the bed or other surface, and the partner with a penis stands or kneels in front and between the partner’s legs. (Didn’t notice that my dog Misha was listening carefully until I watched it… love my dog:) I also thought I would show a very simple way to stretch the front area of the inner thigh muscles in standing – so I did a quick video to explain. You could try these suggestions from my Ask Deb column in Dance Teacher Magazine. Next I would try to find other ways to stretch out your adductor muscles. If you can’t sit up easily in the position try stretching out the hip flexors and hamstrings and see if that makes a difference in your sitting alignment. Can you sit up easily with your feet together even with your knees way up? Or do you roll onto the back of the pelvis? We don’t want to stretch in positions that don’t allow us to start from neutral. That’s a good indicator that the butterfly position is not optimal for you to get at inner thigh tightness. So first… DON’T push your knees down in this position which creates pain. Photos reproduced with permission from Paul GrilleyĪll of these structural variations will influence your ability to sit in the butterfly position. This last picture shows a femur with a longer neck (area next to the head or ball of femur) and the one on the right has a much shorter neck. ![]()
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